The months since Christmas has flown by for my mum who is still not used to the speed in which time goes here. I used to think it was due to being busy, but no, even in these times of doing nothing it flies by, far quicker than in England. I have come to the conclusion it is due to being happy deep in our souls, that sense of belonging somewhere that even when we are not in a state of joy, in fact for me times of terrible blackness, in the past, there is still that inner knowledge of being home.
My mum is so happy here. She is in constant terrible pain due to a hernia of the bowel, but this does not take away her inner peace of belonging in Bulgaria. I'm so happy or her and I'm pretty sure we would have lost her before now had she been left in England, to be sure she would have been forced into a home.
Mum has been sitting on the new decking sunning herself, looking at the gorgeous view and wondering at how fortunate we are to be able to live with this.
Her life has been hard on a personal side and work wise. Mum is a worker, all her life from the age of 14 when she left school.
Most of my life growing up my mum would work 3 jobs, minimum 2. She is very artistic and creative, wanted to pursue a career in Window dressing in the West End of London, and was indeed an apprentice when this was cut short due to being called up during the war to work in a munitions factory, doing her bit. This is still a sadness of lost opportunity for her and she is always wondering how her life would have been if only.....
After the war the women were cut loose in favour of the returning men she continued to work in factories but this time behind a sewing machine. She has made mattresses underwear and became a fantastic seamstress. People would cut pictures out of magazines and newspapers, mum would make a pattern from looking at the pictures then make them a copy. As a kid mum made my outfits including smart suits with hats, coats, dresses etc. I loved my quilted head scarves in the 60's, so very Hollywood and in the 70's hot pants! I would strut my stuff in them when no one else had them, so on trend.
On Sundays mum would go to London to buy wholesale items to sell on at a profit, this money would buy Christmas and Birthday presents and my memory is of waking early to a cup of tea with Bourbon or choc coated biscuits with mum saying goodbye, me crying as I didn't want her to leave and her saying, Ill be back before you can say Jack Robinson.
Once home we always had a roast dinner at 3pm and then an evening tea. Mum would then either work in the local pub in the evening or be running up an outfit for someone on her treadle sewing machine.
Once I went to secondary school mum was free to stop working in the pub during the day and pursue a 9 to 5 job in town. Mum got a job in the post room working for Bulova watches. Very shortly after her starting they held a test for every employee for use on new computers, the room full of floor to ceiling type where information was input and was on a card. She was one of two people who were promoted to work on this, and so started a great period of work and better pay for my hard working mummy! mum still worked in the local as well as the over 21 club, she was a good barmaid, very social and it was her love of socialising, holding dinner parties that got her known in her work life which led to her being employed at times to cater for work do's. When she eventually became a civil servant, working in the Home office Croydon, in the immigration dept, she became well known for her amazing baking and cooking skills. This she inherited from my Nan who was an upstairs/downstairs cook. So was born yet another string to her bow! Mum made my wedding dress for me when I married in 1980 it is still one that could be worn today.
I remember these collars
My wedding dress, and two dresses I had made (not the beach wear LOL)
Mum's wedding outfit
My beautiful dress
I love this photo as we have lost my brother who gave me away.
I am so happy I can spend these years looking after my mum, in a country she loves with plenty of sunshine, a comfortable house with great outside living, she deserves this, has earned it and its my thank you for looking after me in times she really should not have had to.
So I promised photos of the new safe decking.....
The railings will be painted with Frenchic alfresco paint.
Jon made a hand rail for mum, I will be painting this soon
The pool edging has been repaired but will probably need replacing next year
The wooden joists were also rotten in places.
We are so happy with the result and the wonderful workmanship by Jonathan Lamb (find him on facebook) who works in the Burgas and Yambol regions.
As far as I can make out is is a garage for buses but not for passengers to get them, a bedroom if you like.
Its a bit better now it has a roof on and the shrubbery has grown back.
I went to the pool shop in Burgas and seemed to get across my needs even though it was in pigeon Bulgarian and no English. There was a choice between two, one from Spain and one from China. After going away to think and discuss it with my friend Sarah & my man I have plumped for the Spanish make, no contest really it was a matter of price against quality and quality won! They were lovely people and after buying the chemicals for the pool the owner gave me a pool thermometer as a gift. The pump will be ready for collection first thing in the morning.
So I will be undertaking the cleaning of it and hoping to get it up and running for next week.
My real excitement though is my new man is arriving back in Bulgaria for a few weeks summer break. He will be here Monday, so looking forward to seeing him again, its been 2 months now. We talk on the phone every day for hours and now he will be meeting Mum.